[thoughts from ~burning woman~ by Sha’Tara]
Why don’t we get to choose our life? Come on, is there a more legitimate question than that? What’s more important than one’s life? If one’s life is the most important thing one can experience “in life,” how can it be that given a certain age, we are not faced with that choice, literally forced to make such a choice knowing society and civilization will hold us accountable for that choice throughout all future interactions with it?
There is something really strange I find living on this world, in this society, and that’s how little people value the human aspect of their own children. As property you find much attachment, but as raising responsible individuals who must soon make personally and socially impacting life choices? Not only do they not bring them up to face the inevitability of having to live a personal life filled with responsibilities entailing consequences that will follow them to their dying day, but they so easily abandon them into the hands of strangers and institutions without really caring about what they are being taught, what they are learning and how that will affect their future life as human beings. If they seem to care at all, it’s whether the children are equipped to get a job, a profession and will it guarantee a good income. In short, will they be able to cut it in the rat race? Values? Ethics? Virtue? Honor? Duty? Trustworthiness? Even temperance or decency? Not a high priority are they, and how could they be when the leaders themselves are never held to such standards?
Of course that reflects on how the parents themselves were raised; what their values were, and if they had any beyond the previously mentioned: success and money, or maybe for variety, money and success? And if that didn’t pan out too well, satisfied they didn’t end up making a career of crime and jail time, or securing a permanent position on social welfare.
Obviously, as far as I’ve observed and experienced, nobody gets to choose their own life; they just tumble into some corner or hole society leaves open or unguarded for a moment. They stand there, leaning on the wall, looking at surrounding walls and wondering, year after year, what comes next; wondering when the next shoe is going to drop if whatever check is going to be enough to fake it through another month.
This is how it all started for me too; I wasn’t anything special. As soon as “official” grade school began I was installed on the see-saw, severely warned to get those best grades. Competition was the name of the game, and winning was everything. I should point out here that as much as “they” tried later with applied political correctness to guarantee everybody a top mark, they still haven’t figured out how in a competitive system everybody can be the best and walk off with the highest mark. It’s a terrible dilemma, isn’t it. But I’m sure some Mensa brain is bound to figure it out without violating the first rule of competitive bidding for a dwindling job market: dog eat dog. Meanwhile everybody is shoved into the brainwash machine and fed the Brave New World belief: “Everybody, believe you can be top dog, and you will be…” Slosh, slosh; slosh, slosh, goes the Big Brainwashing machine everywhere on the planet, 24/7, running full bore in deep wash cycle.
So, back to the original question: what if we got to choose our life or put another way, our purpose in life? What if we had to sign some societal contract based on wisdom and knowledge handed down through our family generations and our society, dutifully held on to and practiced by our parents, extended families, neighbours, friends, business people, government representatives, religious leaders and so on?
What if we got to choose our life’s purpose based on the very best that a human society can offer and demonstrate? How would that be for a start to a young adult’s life, say at the age of sixteen? Where would we stand? Would one be able to stand up in any year thereafter, in front of one’s class, or in church or at a community or union meeting, or when accepting a political or other high office, and say, “Thanks to the examples of my parents, siblings, teachers, peers, leaders, co-workers, today I can truthfully say that I understand what it means to be a member of the human race and I have demonstrated those qualities in my life since I chose, and agreed, to do so within this society”?
And could the community truthfully respond with its own mantra: “We as a people declare this to be an inalienable truth, that inasmuch as it rests within our power as a people to live thus, we have caused no harm to come to any life, or to our world, nor shall we allow such to happen in the future. By this choice we declare and claim today that we are true human beings”?
I always wonder about things like that. Seems simple enough to me and I’m thinking, if I can live like that, and I observe that it’s a good thing, why wouldn’t everybody else want to do the same? And if they do want to live thus, why don’t they? Why not just stop following stupid and acting stupid?
Let’s see, where should we begin?